Today is a sad day. My sweet son Nathan just lied to me for the first time. I knew he was not telling the truth and he keep saying he was. Why did this day have to come!! What should I do? What did you do the first time your child did not tell the truth? (I just want to go to my room and cry)
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Honey Bunny, this is the first in a LONG series of training our youngins. It's never easy. My advice on lying is move fast and firm. When kids are allowed to practice dishonesty it can quickly become a habit. Maybe he was just "testing" the waters. Let him know there is a strong current in the sea of lies and you wouldn't advise "swimming" there again.
what did he lie about? :)
Ahhh so sad! I am not looking forward to that day coming myself! You are a great mom and I am sure you will do the right thing! I have no advice... I haven't been there yet, but I love you!
oh no!! Not my sweet little nathan! I'll cry with you.
First, you need to try to establish why he lied. if it becomes a habit, especially. parents who think spankings are the answer for all discipline situations tend to raise children who lie to avoid any harsh punishment. i do believe in spankings, but i also believe not all behaviors call for it. are they lying for attention? for acceptance? is it just a habit?
it's tough stuff. believe me, i know.
Let me tell you about your sweet, little Noah...the one who loves pink TO THIS DAY because his sweet teacher, Miss Nicole, told him that it wasn't a girl color, it's God's color.
Thank you, sweetheart.
Anyway, Noah struggled with lying some. And we let him know that was unacceptable. That we don't lie but we always tell the truth and the truth is what really happened. And when he would lie, he would always get a spanking.
Always.
To this day, if he lies, he gets a spanking.
It has worked for us. In fact, he has really become such an honest boy and will often say, "I'm going to tell you the truth, mom, even though I know I'll still get in some trouble."
We have told him, "If you tell us the truth and you did something wrong, you'll have consequences. If you lie to us and did something wrong, too, you will have consequences that will include a spanking."
I can't remember the last time I spanked the boy :)
Hang in there. Just like Kim said, be fast and firm.
You girls are good. I should ask more questions. Thanks for everything.
I sent him to his room and then we talked about what he did and how it was wrong and Jesus would not want us to do this and why. We prayed together and I cried when he left=(
I've read and re-read "Growing Kids God's Way". It helps sometimes. I do spank for lying. But, I don't spank for everything.
Sad day as a mom, you have already gotten lots of great advice though...you are doing a great thing!
He probally learned it from Lily! Haha!
I think we just have to stress the importance of being obedient to God. I tell Lily it makes God sad when you lie to mommy. Maybe someday it will get through to them.
Also they need to know that they will get a punishment if they do that again.
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